Do you feel like you’re growing old, waiting for the narcissist to get his karma or her karma? So I’m gonna tell you: I have been there, and there are a few things I want to tell you about it, so stay with me because today, we’re talking about the narcissist getting their karma.
Now, first we have to talk a little bit about karma and what it is and what it is not. So I’m definitely with you; I have to admit I would enjoy seeing somebody who hurt me not necessarily get hurt, but for the scales to be balanced. It seems only right—just unfair, right? But we can’t talk about karma without talking about how we could bring the bad karma on ourselves for wishing bad things to happen to somebody else.
So instead of wishing and hoping and waiting for the narcissist to get their karma, which would inevitably end up hurting us more than we’ve already been hurt from this toxic person, let’s walk away from that and instead focus on what we can do to get our own sort of revenge on the narcissist. And it’s not what you’re thinking! This type of revenge is not going to bring any bad karma your way, which is awesome. That’s the best type of revenge, right? You can make that person feel bad without any harm coming your way.
And the best way you can do this—really, the only way you can get back at a narcissist—is by moving on and being happy. I know that sounds cliché, right? But it’s actually really, really true. The narcissist uses people; we know this. They use people for their own supply to make themselves feel worthy, to make themselves feel like they matter. So they use and abuse people over and over again in cycles.
And part of the power, especially if you were the hoovering narcissist, which so many of them are, they return to old supply to make themselves feel powerful. If you want to know more about that, I want to direct you to an article I did on Common Narcissistic Hoovering Tactics. It helps them feel powerful; they have control over you, and they know it because they’ve done awful things to you, and you still come back. Really, it’s the trauma bond in most cases. They don’t know what that is; they just think they’re awesome.
But in walking away, you walk away from them, and you move on and live a happy life. Suddenly, they don’t have control anymore, and that affects them on a very, very deep level. It’s more than just what you would experience if you’re going through a breakup. Let’s just say you went through a really painful breakup with a neurotypical person—somebody who is not a narcissist, just a regular run-of-the-mill breakup. Maybe it happens right away, maybe it’s after a month or two. That person moves on, and you see on social media they’re happy; they’re in another relationship, and you’re still upset. You’ve taken a little bit longer to move on, and you feel bad. It’s normal; that’s completely normal.
We’ve all been there at one point or another. Whether you enter their relationship or whether somebody else did, you see your ex moving on, and then it just feels bad. You feel like you should be there. What the narcissist feels is not that; it’s different. It’s on a deeper, deeper level because their whole persona is fake. They build up a fake self to protect themselves from their real fear, which is abandonment.
So they build up this fake self to protect them from feeling all the negative feelings that come with life and to protect them from seeing that they’re really empty inside. To see that for them would be extremely painful, and when they lose control, they have no choice but to see it—if only for a moment. They have no choice but to see that this fake self they built up, this all-powerful self that has control over all of his or her exes, has crumbled—that it’s not real. And you leaving, moving on, and breaking the trauma bond can do that.
So you can get revenge on the narcissist without actually bringing bad karma upon yourself. Because all you’re doing is healing, living a happy life without that toxic person. That’ll get them; that will get them. And now again, you might not see it because, for one, they’re really good at protecting themselves from their feelings. So they’ll feel it, and then they’ll quickly move on to something else, to another source of supply, desperately move on to another source of supply so they can feel good again. This is what they do, and it’s exactly how they hurt people: it’s that desperate need for supply.
You might not see it because they don’t want you to know that you’ve hurt them. But you can know that you have if you move on and you are happily living without them. If you reject their hoovering attempts, you are hurting them on some level, whether they show you or tell you or not. You know you are, and that is a form of karma for them. You can’t go around hurting people unchecked in this lifetime; you can’t. They will eventually feel the effects of their bad behavior on some level.
So in a perfect world, everyone would see them for who they are and not fall for the nonsense, not fall for the fake self, and not get hurt. But we don’t live in a perfect world, and they’re still gonna go around hurting people. We can trust, without wishing it upon them, that they will get theirs. And in the meantime, we can move on and get our own sort of revenge just by being happy, just living a happy life, and making genuine connections that they can’t make. They’re not capable of the type of love that you have to give and receive. They can receive it, but they never feel love; they just kind of leech off of it.
That’s how they go through life. You know they’re not happy people; you know this if you’ve gotten close enough to them. You know they’re not truly happy people. And being who they are, in a way, is its own form of karma. But there’s more—you can know there’s more and not wish it upon them and just move on. Just live your happy little life and know that it’s killing them.
So I want to hear from you: what have you done to get over it, get past the narcissists in your life? Have there been any hoovering attempts, things you have rejected? Because if you have, then you are well on your way to getting your revenge.
Read More: 10 Weird Behaviors of People Abused By Narcissists.
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